Habit is a learned behavior that is repeated regularly and has become almost automatic like rising early in the morning, having a cup of tea in the breakfast, having a glass of milk before going to bed etc. These are the examples of habits which are limited to the individual. How you behave and respond to others is also a very important characteristic of your habit and plays a crucial role in defining your personality. The habits can be classified as good or bad.
In this article, I am going to discuss the 5 bad habits which affect you negatively and you must try to leave them right away through your discipline & efforts.
These habits are as follows:
(1) The habit of the back-biting
â€‹We generally speak sweet in front of a person but bad mouth about him to the third person in his absence. Your speaking negative about a person will not serve any purpose but instead, it can have a disastrous effect not only on your relationship with that person but also on your personality.
Why we do back-biting?
The reasons can be either one or more of the following:
What should we do to avoid back-biting?
(2) The habit of reaching to the conclusion without having the full information
â€‹We are always in a hurry and jump to the conclusion without understanding the whole situation. We pass our verdict about a person or a situation just by giving a glance to it.
Why we do this?
We do this because we tend to avoid the process of information extraction which requires time & energy. The visual macro display of a situation creates a mirage effect in your mind which hides the micro details that exist behind the situation and you pass your verdict instantaneously without thinking twice.
As micro details are generally hidden behind the situation, therefore it requires your time and energy to extract them out and get the real picture.
Please look at the following situation & analyze it:
(3) The habit of not forgiving the minor mistakes
â€‹Sometimes, we get so upset about other people minor mistakes that we end up wasting our precious time.
Why we do so?
We get upset because we have not expected this kind of negative behavior or action from a person.
Please analyze the following situations:
You can see that after extracting the micro details of the situation, your conclusion took an opposite turn from not to talk to him for lifetime to meet him & his mother the very next day.
If you would not have inquired the micro details of the situation & would have jumped to the conclusion, you could have lost your friendship for a lifetime and that too without his fault.
Similarly, in our daily lives, we should try to extract the relevant information about the situation, before reaching to any conclusion.
You can see that how minor mistakes took a bad shape by our reactions.
What should we do to avoid this habit?
We have to just redirect, channelize and mitigate the energies which are released out of other person actions and your reactions.
Please re-analyze the same situations with following reactions:
This energy game will help you in forgiving & forgetting the minor mistakes and gradually, you will start enjoying the things.
(4) The habit of discussing more of people and the events rather than the new ideas
We usually devote most of our time in discussing about the personality traits of the persons & discuss about the past events, like:
Why we do this?
(5) The habit of thinking more and doing less
We generally plan many things in our mind but our speed of implementation is very low. You know that our mind is very agile, it cannot remain idle. The countless ideas come into and go out of mind; some are useful while others are irrelevant.
We collect so many ideas in our mind, postponing their implementation that results in:
There has to be a resonance between what you think? and what you implement?
What should we do?
Your reaction towards people, situations, and reaction towards your own ideas define your overall personality. The good habits can add shine to your personality while the bad ones can demean it. Therefore, you should make constant efforts to improve your personality by leaving bad habits.