It is true that we face criticism in our day to day life and when somebody criticizes, it feels bad and depressing. Well, you cannot stop and change anybody from criticizing, rather you need to change yourself on how to accept and react to criticisms constructively and positively. Your effortless acceptance and positive reaction to the harsh criticism will help in mitigating or reducing the intensity of the negative comment.
The regular practice of the following points will help you in dealing with criticism more effectively and efficiently:
(1) Please do not react instantly to any criticism
The first golden rule to face criticism effectively is to delay your reaction time to it. This will help you not to take the harsh comment personally and give you time to understand the genuineness of the criticism. If you think that the criticism is true, then try to make the possible corrections for betterment. If it is untrue, then ignore it, leave it, forget it and make your belief stronger in what you are doing.
(2) Find out who is criticizing and what is the motive behind it
Find out the real people who are criticizing you on your behavior or work. Are they parents, close friends, good colleagues or leg pullers?
You need to identify them, if parents, friends and colleagues criticizes you, then you need to rethink on your behavior or work because they generally do it for your improvement and the betterment. Try to extract the real thing from their harsh comments and start working on it to improve you. They are the people who will always feel happy on your progress and success.
Leg pullers are those who directly or indirectly criticizes you with a purpose to hinder your growth, disturb your peace of mind and to satisfy their own ego. These people generally derive pleasure in hurting you. The best way to deal with these untrue, negative and harsh comments is to motivate you more enthusiastically in your direction of success and growth. These negative comments will eventually die out with time as they have no real existence in front of your determination, belief and motivation towards your work.
(3) Believe in your self, it will work!
Remember that when you take one step ahead, the negative and harsh comments will always follow you. Have you ever noticed that when you do things exactly the same way what others say or expect from you, then there is very less probability of facing criticism. But when you do those things which you think is actually right, may not be expected as right by the people around you, then you face criticism from every direction. The point is that when you try to do something new, you face criticism and you know what is the definition of real growth, it is trying and experiencing new things. So, when you are actually growing, the negative comments will always try to pull you back and the only thing that keeps you going is your belief in you and your right doings. These negative comments will automatically convert into appreciation with time when you start receiving the fruits of your efforts. Your strong belief will make you immune enough to ignore these negative criticism.
(4) Understand that you can not please everybody in your life
It is true that even after doing the right things, you still receive criticism from some people around you. It generally happens because no single person in this world shares the same perspective in life. This is because of their different upbringing, surroundings, and experiences in life. No matter how hard you try, you cannot please everybody. Also, keep one thing in mind that you are here to create something new not to please everybody. When you will realize this thing, you will not mind negative comments rather you will find it normal and easy to ignore them.
(5) Prepare your mind every morning to accept the negative comments or the criticism, positively
You know that we have conditioned our mind to react positively only to good things that happens in our daily lives. There is only one window in our mind which is open only to receive appreciation. And when you receive the unexpected that is any negative thing or criticism, it makes us unhappy, hurtful and depressed. You cannot stop the criticism coming your way but you can always manage how to deal and react with them. Tell yourself every morning that I will try to accept the criticism as normal as the appreciation. This will create another window in the mind which is open to accept the criticism and the harsh comments. This practice will help you in accepting criticism with fewer efforts and with time you will become an expert in dealing with criticism.
How you deal with criticism in daily life is an art in which you condition your mind to react positively to the harsh comments without taking it personally. A regular practice of this art will make you an expert in this game of mind with time.